OH, Julie! How awful. With your husband so close to the edge, that just can't help things, can it?

Try to look LONG term...like three months...and know that ALL of us can stand MOST things if we know it is short term. That is what it will be here, short term. If things weren't ever going to work out, they would be at each other nearly constantly. bisi.cat really addressed some very valid points. Keep those in mind. Also, try spoiling Ally, nearly to the point of exclsusion. Ally may feel her order threatened, within the house, and with you. Is she treating your husband and children the same?

Good luck, hang in there.
Johanna