Dear Twisterdog-

I think you see what I'm talking about. It hurts people's feelings when you point out their deficiencies. Even in a forum such as this.

If one get a note that says " I luv you. thank you for being my fren", and their response is "you are an atrocious speller; why would I want to associate with an ignorant person like you?", how would you characterize the two parties?

It's true that the world judges on appearance rather than essense. Bad first impressions are hard to overcome. And that is a sad situation, and one of the reasons for low self-esteem in many people.

The question here is how to help.