Originally posted by Samantha Puppy
I've learned that most men will talk about things in their own time. What I would do is let Terry know that it's okay to be upset/sad/scared/whatever and that you're there for him, and let him decide when he's okay to deal with it.

I'm sorry to hear about his dad. Watching the deterioration of loved ones is one of the hardest things people have to face, IMO.
Being a man. I agree with this.

From the description of Terry the above sounds like best course. I don't know if this would work for you, but you may want to let him know this before your visit. He may blow it off at that time, but you will at least have planted a seed prior to his feelings overwhelming him. That may help further down the road. No guarantees, but it is worth a try.

This is not going to be easy for either of you. However, I think that being aware of what will probably happen is the best chance to deal with it. I really wish I had something better and more uplifting to say. If you need anything please feel free to write, I will at least give encourgement if nothing else. Who knows I may actually have something useful to say.

You and Terry, and the entire family will be in my prayers.

On a completly unrelated note, where in Denver. I spent my teenage years in Broomfield which is a norther suburb. Please feel free to ignore this question, you have a lot of other things on your mind.