Roger sure is gorgeous. I also have a semi-feral cat named Cirrus. He's only 1 and loves to be petted and brushed but won't allow me to pick him up. Hopefully as he grows older he'll calm down and begin to trust me more. I've only had him for 8 months now and he's really come out of his shell. Good luck with Roger and some day he may surprise you and just jump up in your lap.