This is so upsetting to hear First off, of course I will be thinking of your Grandpa and his surgeries and sending prayers for a quick recovery. I know it's a scary thought; such an elderly person undergoing surgery. But if he's in realtively good health, he should do just fine Honestly, I've cared for so many post op hip patients in the RR and the majority of them are elderly and it's amazing how well they do. You know, maybe in a strange way, it was a Godsend that he did have his fall, otherwise, his hernia might not have been treated until he was seriously ill.

My heart breaks for your Dad as he is alone in this right now and has his own serious health issues to deal with It's shameful that your brother is not there to help. Sometimes being family doesn't mean that that person can be counted on in times of need. Sadly, from what you have said, it doesn't seem like you will be able to count on him for much of anything and you probably have to let go of that hope as an option; as much as it hurts. It's so difficult for responsible persons to imagine that someone could be so callous, but so it is sometimes.

It's heartbreaking to know that your poor Grandpa has to live in such conditions as this point in his life. I'm sure he's doing the best he can but it doesn't sound like he's really able to live on his own any longer. Is there any chance you can discuss with him other living arrangements? He's going to need a lot of rehab and help post op. My best advice to you would be to speak with (or have your Dad speak with) the social services dept. and/or discharge planner at the hospital prior to discharge to come up some other option, either assisted living, a home health aide, etc. Does he have any health insurance/Medicare? And if he does return to the trailer, hopefully the necessary repairs can be made so he doesn't have to live under such deplorable conditions. But I think you and your Dad would feel a lot better knowing he's being cared for and watched over properly. Your Dad's just not able to be there for him now as I'm sure he would like to be. Please let us know how he's doing. {{{HUGS}}} Sandra