Dear Cathy,

I am so, so, soooooooo sorry for your loss. I don't think you prolonged Noah's suffering, only his memories. You know as well as I do that Noah traveled to a far better place and for that journey he packed a lifetime of sweet, sweet mommy memories. He's there for you, friend -- he's just there in a different way.

I'm sure Gracie is grieving just as much --if not more-- than yourself. Give him a time to come 'round. I think I'd approach the "discipline" in a different manner though. Just because he's grieving doesn't mean he can give up structure.... that structure might just be the best thing (comfort?) for him. If that means 15 minutes in the time-out cage, so be it. He probably feels that his whole life has been lost, let him know that his friend may be gone but mommy and her rules are still there.

It's not easy, is it? I don't know that it's ever easy. There are days when I want nothing more than to hold sweet Soph.

I wish you the best of everything and hope happiness hops it's way into your life again.

{{hugs}}

Zippie, Bratt Katt-K'Cee, and Hyper-Piper