Boy, do I know that feeling. Halo will never come to any of us. She wants to be by herself. If you go to her and cuddle her, she'll purr her brains out, but doesn't want to be picked up or carried. She's never (14 months) jumped in our laps.

Cammie loves my husband and can always be found "attached" to him (hence her nickname Velcro Cat). But, she continues to act like I put lit cigarettes out on her on a regular basis. She hisses and spits if I even look at her.

So, my friend Sharon has recommended trying what she terms "An Affectionate Program". She has 4 kitties who are standoffish. They don't snuggle with each other, either. She has been deliberately (as hard as it is to do) ignoring Althea (her youngest) for the last few days. She gives her food and water of course and cleans out the cat box. But she doesn't pet her, cuddle her, brush her, talk to her, etc. WELL, WELL, WELL, guess who jumped in mommy's lap for the first time in months? Yep, Miss Althea couldn't stand it any longer and actually sought out Sharon for some pet'n'loves this morning.

I think I'll try this with my kitties. I have high hopes for Halo, but Cammie will probably not even notice. She has HER daddy, and that's all she needs.