Has anyone else experienced this?
As you know, I've got Lily from a friend this year. He's been a good friend for years but due to some personal issues, we've lost touch more than 4 years ago. I met him again earlier this year, and he has a family now.
When I told them I was planning to get a second kitty for Luna, he told me their cat was pregnant and I could have one of the kittens. So far, so good.
The kittens were born in May, and it's been only two. It's been the third litter the mommy cat has had and it has always been two. When the first two litters have been adopted, the siblings stayed together. For me, it was without question that I would adopt only one, first because my landlords wouldn't be too happy about more than two cats here, and after all, I wanted a play mate for Luna. I decided to take the little girl, Lily. My friend then decided he would keep the boy, Baghira.
I noticed that my friend wasn't too happy about the entire arrangement, I guess he would have loved to keep them both. His wife and I told him that none of the cats would be alone, Lily would be with Luna, and the boy would stay with the mommy cat. As we all know, Luna and Lily became best of friends, while the mommy cat cut down the bonds between herself and her son when he got older.
All the time my friend made remarks about that, half-jokingly of course, but I know it has a serious background. I felt this putting a strain on my relationship to Lily, and I did not call them very often anymore.
Now today, I talked to him on the phone because I wanted to invite them to my birthday party, and he mentioned that Baghira would obviously suffer and feel unhappy. I wanted to know why and he told me he was peeing in the sink. I told him many cats would do that, and that it might stop once he's neutered, but he's convinced that he's missing Lily.
I'm really beginning to think I've made a mistake to adopt a kitten from somebody I know - geez, he's acting like one of these mothers that gave her baby up for adoption and then never get over it! And as far as I'm concerned, I feel I don't get a chance to really bond with Lily. Till this day, I still feel so much closer to Luna, and I feel bad about it. I even thought about giving Lily back to them, but that wouldn't be fair. This is her home now and she had adjusted to this place, and to Luna and me. And I guess also Luna would miss her little sis, so I have no other choice but to talk to him again (I already did, but it didn't help).
I'm sorry, I know this was long!
Kirsten
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