You guys know I can read this, right?????
LOL

You are so right that I love you, I really do. I also think that if the behaviours that Perry exhibits were a mega problem or if you could see that he was really distressed with anything in his life then you would act to sort it out for him. To my mind there is nothing like that going on or you would of changed things - you are happy, the dogs are happy, Don is happy. Life could be a lot worse?!
(In fact, I think it is only me that isn't so chuffed with your situation!!!!!!)