Originally posted by micki76
Of course I only know your side, but your brother sounds like an ass. I wouldn’t sacrifice my happiness or emotional well being for his Xmas for anything in the world. It sounds like he resents you for something or has some other unresolved issue that he’s not being upfront about. It’s ultimately your decision alone to make, but I agree with your Dad and not your husband. I don’t think I’d agree to the “cut ties” thing, but I would stand up for myself and my feelings. I personally would confront him and try to find out what the problem really is, but you may not be ready for that or even want to know. It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship and it won’t be until he deals with whatever’s going on with him.

Were you ever close? What about before your Mother passed away?

I hope everything works out and you do what’s best for you.

Yeah he can be an ass, the family has said that for years now.

We were close before our mother passed....very close. After my mother died he went into a shell of sorts and nobody could reach him. Even to this day you still can't talk about mother to him.

Over the years he has turned into a very hard hearted person, not only to me but to others. Our Father thinks it's the job that done this to him. He's president of a major corporation and that has changed him alot also. The boy who use to do Steve Martain imitations now never smiles or laughs, he lives on the cell phone or lap top, making mergers & acquisitions that none of use understand. My Brother is a very gifted man, but lacks the gift for emotions. So he won't talk to me about our problem, he made that clear to me. He gave me the corporate speech voice and informed me not to interrupted him. And then that was the end of the phone call.

I do so much what to know what happened with us, I can't even start to change things till I know what it is that needs to be changed. So I am more then ready for what he has to say....if he only will say it.

I know I should do what's best for me, I just hate that it effects others too.

Thanks for replying. When feeling and anger get involved it's hard for me to see clearly sometimes and it's good to hear others thoughts on things. PT seem like a good place to ask sense no one here has any connection to me and no personal feeling can effect the answers.