First off, I am so that Phoebe is OK!! Now your question...I never thought much about it! I just love and snuggle on them whenever they come around or stop and give them a kiss on the head if I pass them. If I see one of the kittens watching me give attention to the other - I make a point of addressing the other as well. I am home all the time with them, so I guess it is just an ongoing thing. I never thought of setting aside special time. Seems if I go up and try to play when it is not *their* idea - they turn their furry tails on me! I just live to please and adore on command I guess.

PS One more thought - any time we have brought a newcomer into the house - the idea is to pretty much ignore them if the previous cats are around - at least at first. Let the residents make the overtures to the new baby. I don't think it would be too good to let the other kitties see you giving Phoebe too much attention - just my logic anyway.