moff - that's so sad. I'm so sorry for your loss. My parents are still alive and married to each other. I honestly cannot imagine what it would be like to have my dad marry another woman only to have her have the final say. Although I also cannot imagine what it would be like if something were to happen to my husband and his relatives were to try to get me to make decisions that I didn't want. It sounds like a terrible situation.


2k - what we sometimes forget is that dying is a part of living and that when a person stops eating it can be their way of telling the world "I'm done, I'm tired, and its time for me to go". I think your family is doing the right thing. People have been allowed to die without feeding tubes all this time. Just because we can do something doesn't mean we should do something.