Hello Luckies4me,

I'm sitting here trying to figure out what kind of advice I can give you. I wish I had some kind of magic words to make everything alright for you. I know how tough this is for you. Cancer is a very scary thing. Not only for the paitient but also for the family. I know that when I was first diagnosed I also withdrew from my family. I can't really explain why. I think I felt like I needed to deal with it myself first before I could let any one in. I was not like this with my husband, just the people outside the house. My parents and my sister mostly. I also think part of me just did not want to be a bother to people. I know that is silly, but when you go through this you go through tons of emotions. Even feeling guilty that you are sick and causing so many people to worry. My sister was very understanding about this, but I think my parents were very hurt by it. They wanted so badly to help me. To do anything at all to help and it drove them crazy. I also realized that with everything that was going on I was starting to sink into a depression. Maybe this is something that is happening with your mom. I spoke to my doctor about it and was told that it was perfectly normal for what I was going through. I started taking anti-depressants and that seemed to help me quite a bit. Not to say that there weren't times when I didn't just sit down and sob. I had quite a few good sobbing sessions. As a matter of fact I just had one last Thursday. When I started my radiation I also found out about a support/education group. I asked my parents to come along with me and I think this did a lot of good for us. I don't know why I'm going on like this. I hope you are getting some kind of understanding out of this. Maybe your mom just needs some time to take things in and figure out what is going to happen. Maybe she is also having some kind of depression. I'm not for sure what her situation is. Was she just recently diagnosed? What kind of cancer does she have? Maybe you could PM me and fill me in on the details. It might just help you to talk about it and I can be a really good listener. Try not to be too upset with your mom. Just let her know that you are there for her when she needs you. Call her everday if it makes you feel better so you can keep reminding her that you can help if she needs you. Try not to be hurt or offended if she does not ask for help. It could just be her way of dealing with things.

Take Care and please PM me if you feel up to talking about it. I care!

Hugs.....Robin