Donna, I sure hope you can feel better soon. Don't let your daughter make you feel guilty for having to do what you have to do (work after christmas.....for example). You can certainly visit earlier or later. Christmas does not need to be celebrated on the 25th in order to make it special. When my mom was still alive she always had our family christmas dinner on a Sunday NEAR, but not on, the 25th so that her grown children with spouses and families of their own did not have to FIGHT as to where they would spend Christmas day. Now go do something special for yourself so you can cheer up a bit. OK?