Hello Luckies4me, and everyone else. Newbie here but just had to post . I came as a guest, and it was your sons pics with the pumpkins that made me decide I wanted to be a member here. and All the folks love for their pets. About caring for your father I have some who can't understand this concept. But why I am posting, is I am so amazed that a lady so young would have this outlook when it comes to taking care of your dad. You are simply amazing. I have been in the business for over 25 years taking care of elderly and have seen both sides of the fence. Just take one day at a time, try not to mother your dad. and most of all have a positive attitude around him. Its great you and your dad are buddies. My dad was my best friend as my mother passed almost 21 years ago. Dads gone to be with her now, which I know made him happy. Its wonderful he will see your little one. Are you so far away now that a weekend trip isn't feasable? Mabye when your dads surgerys are over, and he is back to feeling better he can come and visit for a time. Prayers are on their way to you and your dad.