Ok...so i've never ever really posted anything 'controvercial' on this site...but c'mon. You're 13? and you're still CONSIDERING having sex with this 20 year old who you've described as BEING MEAN to you in the past? What are you THINKING?!!! This alone should be a SCREAMING ALERT that you're too young & immature to be doing something as adult as having sex!!! Sex is something that ADULTS do...should be something that 'adults who care deeply about each other do'. Don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying you're 'immature' per se....but don't you think you need to mature some before you go making LIFE ALTERING decisions?