I have no idea what kind of parent I will be. I don't think any of us can predict how hard it is to be a parent, until we become one. I am 28 years old now and can at least look at my adolescence from a different perspective. While I understand times are changing, there are some values I hope I will hold.

I hope I am accepting of my children and their individuality. I hope I am able to help them become the best they can be. I hope I can keep them safe and help them understand how important it is to stay a good course in life.

Like my own parents, my biggest priority will be grades. If my teen is making good grades and studying and following a good path, then I'll probably be more likely to overlook some haircolors. Once my child is driving or my daughter is dating, I will make sure there is a phone always available on his or her person. I will always know who my children are with and what they are doing. But, if my child earns my trust, then I will give it. I will expect my child to take an interest in things- both in and outside of school. They may not be an athlete or anything like that, but I expect them to have interests. Art, music, sports... something besides hanging out at the movie theater.

But, let the grades fall or start messing up. I will shirk those freedoms in a NY minute.