Cataholic, what I meant was that her detaching from me has started before Lily arrived, not the peeing attacks (she did it earlier this year, too, but then they found struvite crystals and after a treatment + diet, it stopped. And this time, there are no crystals again).

I try to communicate with her, but she won't let me. And we hardly have any time for our own. During the past days, Luna has made some attempts to get closer to me again, but Lily destroys them all. Like just now:

I was typing here at the computer, and Luna jumped onto the desk and laid down next to the keyboard (which she used to do until she has started detaching from me earlier this year). But as soon as she has laid down, Lily came, also jumped onto the desk and started catching her tail. Luna immediately jumped down and left the room, and her disappointment was almost physical! I'm feeling so sorry for her! I wanna hug her and tell her how sorry I am for her and that she's still my beloved sweet little girl! But every time I'm approaching her, Lily comes between us. It doesn't even work to close the door behind us, because Lily would cry outside and that means extra stress for Luna.

And yes, I followed Jen's story, but I don't want to seperate Luna and Lily. it's not that they don't like each other, they play and sleep together and Luna is even "nursing" Lily, so I'm afraid a seperation would do damage to their friendship!

But yes, it would be interesting to know what your books says!

Kirsten