Which do you want?

[lovemyshiba]

I chose cremation. I have felt that way for a while, and I agree, I would like my loved ones to remember me alive, not in a casket.

[popcornbird]

Definitely buried. In my opinion, the ground is where the dead belong.

[anna_66]

Originally posted by popcornbird
In my opinion, the ground is where the dead belong.

I want my ashes spread, so therefore I feel I am where I belong (or will be).

[popcornbird]

Originally posted by anna_66
I want my ashes spread, so therefore I feel I am where I belong (or will be).

Ah I see. I would prefer to be buried in one piece though.

[Fuzzy317]

I have told my family many times, that I want to be cremated and sprinkled in the creek beside my favorite place, the Talladega Gran Prix racetrack. My worst racing crash was there in 1996, but its still my favorite place.

[CathyBogart]

I feel that burial is a waste of space, I want to be cremated and scattered somewhere...

[Tonya]

I totally know how you are feeling and thinking, Anna. I had a cousin go through a windshield last Oct, and they actually had open casket. Not to be insensitive or gross, but you can only imagine what someone would look like after going through a windshield. No amount of makeup can make them look themselves. I am totally against open casket. When I close my eyes and think of my cousin, I picture her dead and looking horrible. I was with her the night she died. If she'd had a closed casket, that night would have been my final memory of her instead. I want to be buried without a viewing or open casket.

[wolf_Q]

I would never choose cremation. Just my beliefs.

I don't want people staring at me either. I'd prefer closed. I'm still traumatized by people taking photos at my Grandfather's funeral...they actually made a friggin scrapbook out of it, and they are upset because I (and my family) refuse to look at it.

[Fox-Gal]

Cremated and spread my ashes in the ocean.
Two reasons why, first I belive that land should be used for better things then holding my remains. Build a family a home, park anything that would bring joy to the living.

Second I don't want there to be a place that my family can go to to morn. I've seen people standing over a grave site, talking to their loved ones, crying etc. I don't want that, if they need to talk to me I'm where ever they are and if they want to cry....I'll be there too. It's only my shell that rests in the ground, not me. I don't want them to morn over an empty shell.

[Fuzzy317]

Originally posted by Fox-Gal
Second I don't want there to be a place that my family can go to to morn. I've seen people standing over a grave site, talking to their loved ones, crying etc. I don't want that, if they need to talk to me I'm where ever they are and if they want to cry....I'll be there too. It's only my shell that rests in the ground, not me. I don't want them to morn over an empty shell.

This is exactly how I feel. I want to be in a joyful/happy place, not a sad/lonely place.

[carole]

I alway's wanted to be buried, until I attended my first funeral, and then my second, one was burial , one was cremation, by far the cremation was easier on the grieving family, much quicker, and not so sad, there is something extra sad to me standing over the coffin being lowered down into the ground.

So it is cremation for me, I am not a morbid person, but I have left instructions for my family on exactly how I want my funeral, I figured we cannot always have what we want in life, so at least we can in death, (well hopefully).

I have it all planned,the colour of the hearse, the flowers, the music, yep SANTANA AND BARRY WHITE are gonna see me out, where it will be held etc etc.

After each funeral I have attended, I have changed my notes according to what I want.

I also hope that oneday my youngsters will take my ashes over to the land of my birth SCOTLAND, and scatter them in ELLON the village where I was born., it maybe the only way I will ever visit my birthplace lol.

I personally feel by leaving instructions, that can be carried out to the best of my family's ability, will help them, they won't have to make choices and decisions, they may not feel capable of, at the time, and it will make things easier for them all.

Anyhow just my thoughts, interesting topic.

[kingrattus]

Eco-pod me please!!! so I chose other.

[Kfamr]

I don't know. The sight of a graveyard and the fact that there are bodies, bones and so on 6 feet below me freaks me out.


I think i'd want to be cremated and scattered in the ocean.

[cloverfdx]

cremation for me thanks

i dont want to be stuffed in a wooden box and shoved under 6 feet of cold dirt *shudders* and im a bit claustrophobic as it is *urgh*

[Cataholic]

Cremated....

However, folks, 'usually' cremation is the alternative to a coffin burial. With cremation, you still have the option to have a casket viewing, memorial, AND a burial...the urn is interred instead of the whole coffin(which in a cremation would be a plain wooden casket instead of the fancy ones you see at a viewing). An open or closed casket can still happen when one is cremated, since the cremation is after the viewing.

So, if you want cremation, and NO viewings...be specific.