Jen, I found a home for Ti after weeks of going on line to different rescues. You might want to try the same thing. You may be able to find a home, word to mouth..... I personally don't treasure the thought of returning a cat to a kill shelter....or any shelter for that matter. There are folks out there, looking for grown cats.....and maybe he would be better off in a single cat home.....or maybe an indoor/outdoor arrangement. Just a thought. Really. I hope I didn't offend you. You sound so stressed, that I thought an option might be in order.