Jen I can understand you quite well. I felt like that -but only for a short time- when we had to pill Filou and he hated it and run out of the room for one day whenever he saw me.

For me it is a help if I can talk about it with Siegmar. Both of us are rather weak hearted and tell each other how much we hate to do something to the kitties that looks like abuse to them. But we talk each other into how we need to be hard.

I have no idea how I would deal with it for a week, however. It hurts me too to think of Jim and so I am glad that he has now the room for him and that up to now he is medically fine (but not psychologically )

With 14 cats I understand that there is a much bigger danger that unwanted behavior spreads as well as infections. (Tigris is such a healthy tough cookie that he never caught one if Filou's infections). Thus I am convinced that you are doing the right thing.

You know that you are a very good and responsible cat mom - and in a week or so it will start to be fun again.

So we keep our paws and fingers crossed that you can hold on