What a neat idea to write them messages in the snow. I'll have to do that for Trev when it snows worth something here. We've had one small one so far this winter (we're in TN). I can see her grave from the kitchen window and I "talk" to her occasionally. I can hardly wait to see the crocus bloom that I planted over her even though that will mean she's been gone a while.

As for Lacey (the 12 year-old), my eldest daughter had to make the decision and take care of it by herself and I don't even know if she's buried the ashes yet. She's in IN and we haven't talked about it much lately. Guess I'll have to email her. No matter how much you "prepare", it just isn't easy to get over the loss, (sigh) it will take some time. Guess that's why we get puppies -- to remind us of the good times and to remember the love.... Well, this is getting maudlin. I visited the Petloss site earlier and will go back sometime when I am less sensitive to the stories. Thanks for your condolences, again and know that my heart feels for your losses as well.