Oh, I could go on for days about this!

I don't have children, I am almost 28 years old. I will not be having children any time soon. I may never have them.
I think what is important is that people have children when they want them and are ready for them. If I ever feel the "maternal urge" and my finances, relationships, home, etc are in order, then okay. But if that day never comes, then I will be just fine with it.

I, too, HATE it when people say things about my age and getting older. I mean, no matter what, I wouldn't want to think about having kids in my 20's. No way. I enjoy waking up on Friday and deciding where to go to dinner, or if I want to catch a play or drive to the water or catch a plane to Vegas. I like grown up vacations and grown up restaurants and a Cranberry Martini or two. So, I'm not ready to share my life with a child. I woudln't be a good mother at this point.

Why can't people realize that having a baby at a time when you will be a bad parent is completely selfish. Just because I'm almost 30, there are people who believe I shoudl run out and procreate no matter what. That's disgusting if you ask me.

So I may never have children. I may have them later. I'm okay with it either way.

I also know people who clearly can't afford children, have rocky relationships, etc. and they still keep popping them out for their "loving family." Whatever.

If I have children, I want to be in a position to never HAVE to say no to them. I will say no to them because I CHOOSE to.

I respect families and children, as well as the desire to have children. What I do not respect are undisciplined children and parents who do not respect the necessity of family plannign when it is appropriate.

There are millions of people out there who desperatly want children and can't have them. They are on adoption waitlists years long. They can provide wonderful, loving homes. And teenagers are out there keeping babies and having more to get the food stamps.

Sorry if that makes me evil, but I just don't understand that.