Everybody is entitled to their opinions and everyone here who has posted have obviously thought out their course of actions well. I commend you all for standing by your points of view, even if they are not popular.

And I will add my two cents. My husband and I would like to have kids at some point, but we do both have health concerns that need to be addressed in the context of getting pregnant (we are both diabetic, so how would that affect the chances of the baby being diabetic and also how would it affect my health). Or, we may decide to adopt. Either way, we have decided nothing is happening till I am 30 (4 years from now).

What I hate is two things....first, the looks/comments I get about the possibly adopting thing and secondly, I get "30...you want to wait till you are 30 to have kids?!?!?!? That's too old!!!"

When I get the "adopting looks/comments", I usually reference Julia Roberts in Steel Magnolias and be like "you want that to happen to me?"

And to the "30 thing", I usually point out that it would be nice to be 4 years into our marriage and have a house before bringing a kid into the world.