Alison, I just found this post today and I am so sorry for what has happened to Bella and in turn to you. Such a scenerio is too difficult to even think about or comprehend and I don't know how you have managed to stay strong for Bella.

There is a song (A WORD SAD ENOUGH) written by Cathe St. Jean The lyrics are:
"I thought I knew all the words for heartbreak - I thought I heard all the words for pain - I thought I knew the tune to lonliness - But they didn't make a word sad enough - They didn't make a word bad enough for this one".

I will keep Bella and you in my prayers. God bless you for being such a caring guardian.