Surrogate mothers, etc.

[CathyBogart]

That's a...wierd thought. Really wierd.

[Christiansmommy]

Originally posted by Tonya
I just saw something about sperm banks. They were talking about how it is going to become a disaster. Think about it, a man can father hundreds of children through just one or two donations. Some men donate multiple times. More then likely all of these children will grow up living in the general area of the sperm bank. Sperm bank donations are generally anonymous. Odds are much higher that brothers will unknowingly marry sisters and whatnot. I'd never thought of that until I saw that on TV, but it is so true!

Wow, i never thought of it that way either!!!

[All Creatures Great And Small]

There was a news story a few years back, about a fertility specialist (an older man) who had been "arranging" in vitro fertilizations for women, allegedly with donated sperm, but it turned out he had been using his OWN sperm - he fathered somewhere in the neighborhood of 75 children, if I remember correctly. I'd have to look up the story somewhere. How depressing would THAT be? To not only find out that this old fool fathered your child, instead of the intended sperm donor, and that your child had about 74 siblings you don't know?

I think I could be a surrogate mom, as long as none of my genetic material was used in the making of the baby. If it was donated eggs and sperm, I could rent out womb space for 9 months. I'm not very "into" babies, especially if they are not genetically mine, so I wouldn't get overly attached, and I already have all the stretch marks and figure damage, so what's one more? Plus I'd have a built in excuse to eat for 2! -

[lizbud]

Originally posted by All Creatures Great And Small


I think I could be a surrogate mom, as long as none of my genetic material was used in the making of the baby. If it was donated eggs and sperm, I could rent out womb space for 9 months. I'm not very "into" babies, especially if they are not genetically mine, so I wouldn't get overly attached, and I already have all the stretch marks and figure damage, so what's one more? Plus I'd have a built in excuse to eat for 2! -

ACGS,

But wouldn't you be sharing the same blood supply as the
baby you carry? Wouldn't it be your heart beat that it heard
and responded to? You're a stronger women than I.

About the old dude who spread his sperm around so freely,
I seem to remember that. Didn't they make a made for TV movie
out of the story? I think the guy was a medical doctor.

[Airedalekisses]

Whew, with all of the birth defects that affect children born to older than age 50 mothers-even egg donors older than 50 - I wouldn't risk it-I hope that if someone does decide to have a child after the age of 45-she has genetic counseling. The incidence of Down's Syndrome goes up significantly if the mother/donor is older.

[allanimalswelcome]

Whew, with all of the birth defects that affect children born to older than age 50 mothers-even egg donors older than 50 - I wouldn't risk it-I hope that if someone does decide to have a child after the age of 45-she has genetic counseling. The incidence of Down's Syndrome goes up significantly if the mother/donor is older.

I was just going to say that

~Rachel

[puppygrrl4eva7]

I know this isn't exactly the topic, but what really makes me mad is when you see those 18 yr olds on the Maury show trying to find their babies father. First of all an 18 year old shouldn't be having babies, second of all if they are having babies they should be responsible enough to know who the fathers are, and if they are on the show they obiously aren't that responsible, and if they can't handle knowing that information they aren't responsible to be making any of those choices in the first place. Yes I feel sorry for them but its their fault if they didn't want anything to happen they could have prevented it.

[Airedalekisses]

I think sometimes people should be spayed and neutered!

[AvaJoy]

Originally posted by Airedalekisses
I think sometimes people should be spayed and neutered!

I agree, and that would be ideal, but unfortunately we are much too freedom oriented in this country, and our lawmakers fail to see the effects of overpopulation. Isn't there a law in China that couples are only allowed 2 children? The rest of the planet should take heed.

If they could cast aside their egos, infertile couples hell-bent upon being parents should adopt rather than spend thousands of dollars on in-virtro, sperm banks, surrogates, etc. It is simply ego gratification to excess, especially when scores of unwanted children await . . . in need of a family that will love them.

[Aspen and Misty]

Avajoy- I think it's only one child now. I think any one who can't have kids and wants kids should adopt, those poor kids who need homes, they don't ever get a hug an kiss goodnight from there mommy or dady. IMagine being able to change a life like that!

Ash

[pitc9]

I am 27 and have had no children, two of my sisters had there first children in 2001. My one sister got pregnant RIGHT away, and the other took over two years. Pretty soon I will be thinking about having children, and I wonder how easy or hard it will be for me. I have a condition that will make getting pregnant harder the older I get (my first doctor was trying to tell me to have a baby when I was 19 and was not even married yet...I don't go to the Dr anymore!! )

So.....I may one day soon have to look into some of those methods for having children. Rick and I both are looking forward to having kids someday..... we just don't yet know how hard it's going to be!

[2kitties]

I"m all for it.
Have a baby any way you can if you:
want a baby, can afford a baby, have love to give and have a loving stable home.
If it takes me until I'm 50 to get to those points, then so be it. For me, I'd probably adopt at that age, but I would consider surrogacy if it were an option to me.
And if my husband were enable to conceive, I'd have no problem turning to medicing and donors.

My problem is not with those who use medical methods to procreate, or those of us who decide not to pop out babies at the ripe old age of 20. My problem is with those who behave with a blatant disregard for proper parenting. Bringing children into terribly destructive family situations.