Dear ILBR,

Over the years I have had the unfortunate experience of helping (too) many friends (and family) leave abusive relationships. From the sounds of it your mother's relationship definitely has the potential to go that route (if it isn't already). I have no advice for you about this particular incident. But my suggestion for you is to contact the local woman's shelter or domestic violence hotline. These places will be able to put you in contact with counselling services for YOU.

Therapy maybe in order for everyone else, but you can't force them to do anything. The only person you have any control over is yourself. You need to take care of yourself and part of that is to get help for YOU.

Good luck