This fellow needs a few classes in anger management, to say the least!!! If this is his response to not heeding his request to shut off a clock, I shudder to think what his response might be to a more serious "infraction!" Forgive me, but be you right or wrong in not turning off the clock, NO adult should act out toward another living being using violence, especially a child. His actions are what is childish and immature and they certainly set a very poor example as to how children should act!!
Scream, yell, throw a tantrum, throw the clock at the wall one day, hit the " offender" the next. This type of violence "without a victim" is precisely the type that leads to physical abuse. Yes, you could have gotten up to shut off the clock. But please, this is an alarm clock going off, for heaven's sake! I believe in the time it took for him to yell for you to get in there and shut it off, he could have asked your Mom to hang on a sec' and shut it off himself!! Children, teenagers, need appropriate discipline and guidance even appropriate punnishment. But, I believe your Mom could have corrected you without casting you in the role of having caused problems between her and her boyfriend.
As for the "respect" issue. It is not the job of the child to set the example of respect for the adult! It is the job of the adult to show by example, the meaning of respect. Blaming you for "problems" she may have with her "boyfriend," infuriates me. You are her child. If she has discipline issues with you over this, she should address that specific issue with you and deal with it for what it is and not throw guilt upon you for rocking her love boat!! I have worked with many abused women and children in a clinical setting, and this is all too familiar a scenario. If I were you, ILWBF, I would take the lead, be the "adult" and set the example and apologize to him for not shutting off the clock. I'd be interested to learn if he in turn, apologizes to you for acting so inappropriately!
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