OK...let's clear up some miscommunication:

I don't let Casey do what he wants or let him run wild. I just have never seen the point in locking them up in a small cage. He does get time outs. He knows when he has done wrong. It just doesn't stick with him.

At any rate, the people that want to adopt him told me to take time in making my decision and will understand if I say no. I feel that they have been very respectfull and reasonable. They have sent me a picture of their farm, and yes, while I'm sure it could all be one big elaborate lie, I just can't see why an older couple whould do all of that and then drive 5 hours to get him AND offer to keep in contact with me so I can see Casey's progress.

I will withdrawl and meditate and try to figure out what is best for HIM regardless of what our feelings might be.