aly:Maybe you can just seperate them while you're not home for a little while. Then when you feel comfortable, you can start leaving them together even while you're not home again. >>>>

This is what I did too.

Approx. 2.5 years ago, Sheba thought she
was still alpha.
Not to get into the whole story, but Rocky came
into the bedroom for pets from me, and Sheba
got possessive. (jelousey)
It happened so fast, I am not even sure what happen.
Luckly, I was right next to them before
a full fight could pursue, and their were no injuries
after I pried Rocky's jaws off Sheba's neck.

What I did:
I gave Rocky a 10 minute time out in his crate,
Than made them both lay down accross the room
from each other.
Sheba would not look at Rocky in the eyes or go near him.
Rocky kept staring down Sheba.


I had to leave for work, so Sheba stayed in the house
and Rocky outside.
When I got home, Sheba still would not go near Rocky or
look him in the eyes. Rocky already got over it.

For about 4 months I separated them while I
was not home. At home I kept them under
supervision. Well, they have not had a fight since,
(a couple of close call over a bone or toy)
but I have not had to separate them.

(after it happened I also was upset and devastated, thinking I would have to keep them separated for the rest of their
lives.) But as you see, I didn't.

Dogs have good memories, but hopefully separting them
while you are not around to watch them, will do the trick and
when you are home they can be together.
Keep us udated.