Christy, Both of my kids grew up with toy poodles. I guess you have to know your children and you know your daughter better than anyone. A four year old girl is often very much a "little mommy in the bud," and tend to be very gentle and loving with small pets and respectful of their size. That's how my daughter was with our two. Best wishes on the adoption! Keep us posted on Stormy or Sable or ?????