If you do, his problems will just go with him, and he'll have a lot of difficulty finding a forever home. The reality is, he will probably be put down.

Please, please give him another chance. Have you tried banning him from the bedroom? He probably isn't doing it anywhere else ... it would be the smell of pee permeating the house.

Also examine the litter problem ... have you changed trays, brands or deodorisers recently? We tried a new brand of litter made from recycled paper and our adorable kitty pooped on the floor! It could be something like this, but it sounds more like your cat has a psychological issue. Make sure you give your kitty heaps and heaps of love and cuddles. Monitor his use of the litter tray, and give him a pat and a treat when you see him using it. Persuade your fiance to allow you to keep the litter somewhere else. Is there tension in your relationship? That can make the problem worse. Cats are very intituitve and pick up on underlying currents of tension. When my Mother and her fiance broke up, all four cats started peeing everywhere. Mum's cat, Whiskey, even peed on his DVD collection!

Don't let your fiance boss you about. Don't let him tell you to give away your pet. Personally, if it were me, I wouldn't marry someone who forced me to give up my cat. It means more than simply my love for my cat - you have a responsibility for that pet. If he cannot understand that, I would be questioning his moral integrity. But, that's just me.