Welcome to pet talk. I am sorry it was due to such sad circumstances. We (all) know that loss that you are experiencing right now. We know that it is real and it is devestating. To any one of us our pets are our companions, our friends and yes even our children. To gieve is natural and normal. I would feel more likely to not understand a person who was NOT hurt by the loss of a companion animal. Your other kitties will not replace Jose but they will help you get through the hardet times. They will need your love as they are experiencing the same loss (and yes, animals ARE affected by the death of other pets). I hope you will continue to come here, tell us about Jose and also your other pets and we will tell you about ours (and convince you to get more cats.....that is my specialty ) Keep in mind that the pain will ease and the GOOD memories will soon be all that is left.