Bridget, Writing a letter is an excellent idea. You are so articulate and it will give you an opportunity to say exactly what you want to say without getting angry by any feedback he may give, as might happen if you talk to him on the phone. This is a good thing to do, even if it doesn't accomplish your purpose. It is good because it is a wonderful thing for you to do for your dad. It is good because it will help you become a little more experienced in the strategy of dealing with difficult people, something dear sweet person that you will find you will have to do frequently in life. It is good because it is giving your grandfather an opportunity to reflect upon his own decisions and how they affect other people and provide him with a chance to do something puts someone else's needs ahead of his own. Whether or not he takes advantage of this opportunity is not my point, but that in this moment in time, for the specific people involved, he had a chance.

Yes, Bridget, good luck.

[This message has been edited by RachelJ (edited June 15, 2001).]