I think we take it way more personally than the cats do. My Joxer is the bottom cat. The others will play with him, but if they decide that they want to sit where he is sitting, they make him move. He is occasionally hissed at and nipped at, and he just doesn't care. He's a lover, not a fighter, and he doesn't feel like fighting back - he'd rather just leave the room.

He is also my one lap kitty and is the one that sleeps with us at night.