I have to give Jupiter back.... :(.... I am so sad!!

[popcornbird]

Me and Eric were talking to her on the porch and she was telling me about a four year old cat that she was thinking about getting... and Eric said.. why don't you just take Jupiter back... and she said REALLY?.. and I almost couldn't say yes but she started crying.

I can't believe Eric said that! Isn't he attached to Jupiter?

Sara, my heart has broken into a million piece after reading this thread. It really broke my heart.

I had never known Jupiter was your sister's. I thought she "gave" him to you, and that you were his mommy. I know that she and her family loves him very much, but she is your sister. She can always visit him and so can her kids. Jupiter can be their "cousin" kitty. He is still part of the family. I don't understand why you must break Tinky and Jupiter's hearts after they've gotten so attached to each other. I just don't think its fair. Its not Jupiter's fault that she couldn't keep him back then, and its not fair to Tinky OR Jupiter to lose their best friend for no reason. She is your sister and I believe you are very close. You can talk to her. Tell her how much you love her and tell her how welcome she is to come and see Jupiter at any time. I know that I can talk my brother out of anything, simply because he is my brother. He understands. I'm sure your sister will understand too. Tell her how much Jupiter and Tinky love each other and how hard it would be for them to seperate. Tell her that its not good for them to be away from each other, and could have a bad effect on their health. Its just not fair to either of them or to you either. You've had Jupiter far longer than your sister. He's your baby. I hope I'm not sounding mean. I just don't want Jupiter and Tinky's hearts to be broken. They grew up together. They love each other. You sister can always see Jupiter at your place. Please talk to her and try to convince her that getting another kitty will be a better option. Please talk to her. I understand that you don't want to upset your sister, but I hope Jupiter and Tinky won't have to go through such a painful change. Good luck and keep us updated!

[wolf_Q]

Originally posted by Sara luvs her Tinky

I am confused... I wish I could talk to the kitties and see what THEY wanted..... I just want everyone to be happy..

I think you already know the answer to that. Tinky and Jupiter obviously love eachother, and I'm sure they would not want to be separated.

This is so heartbreaking. How long did you sister have Jupiter before you took him? Having a pet for a year is a very long time, I know you are so attached to him...I would be too. Please talk to your sister. I hope she will consider letting you keep him and finding another special kitty for her family.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

originally posted by Wolf_Q
How long did you sister have Jupiter before you took him?

My sister had him for 6 months......

originally posted by Popcornbird
I can't believe Eric said that! Isn't he attached to Jupiter?

Yeah.. .he just really fell in love with the baby kitten...... and he fells like more than two animals is too much... so he figured that if Melissa wanted Jupiter back then we could rescue the baby kitten.... THEN .... on the way home he started to realize how much he would miss Jupiter.... BUT.... he really wants the baby kitten.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Sara, I sure hope that you can keep Jupiter. Please try to talk to your sister and explain how you really feel about him and how Tinky loves him too. I just can't imagine Tinky without Jupiter. I also hope that you can rescue the kitten. I sure hope that your sister will realise how attached Jupiter is to your family and will reconsider and decide to adopt the kitten instead. Then your husband can visit the kitten. Please keep us updated. Good luck.

[Ann]

Oh, this is awful... I can see both sides of the story and agree with them both >_< I think your sister should be able to get back her cat (it's obvious that she missed him a lot, and something like that would be hard to get over) and I think that you should get to keep him, since both you and Tinky obviously love him a lot... Since I'm that split myself I honestly can't give you any useful advice. I hope for the best for all of you, including that little kitten.

[Kirsten]

That's heartbreaking to read, and it also makes me a bit angry that Eric has said that. I'm sorry for that, but I just feel it's a bit selfish of him.

I absolutly agree with NoahsMommy! It would be hard for Tinky and Jupiter to be seperated now, they wouldn't understand it. Tinky would mourn the loss of a friend that CAN NOT be easily replaced by a new kitten, and Jupiter would be confused, too. After all, he spent more time with you than with your sis. And there are so many kittens in this world who are looking for a good home now, so your sister could get one (for example that little kitten your friend has, 'cause THAT one definitely needs a better home!)

It's not an easy position you're in right now, and I hope you'll find a way. Good luck!

Kirsten

[jenluckenbach]

1st. Does your sister have computer access? I think she needs to read this thread!

2nd. (and I know this is not the time to be critical, so I apologize in advance) BUT....I think Eric is not being really right here, either. How heartless of him to say "Take Jupiter back" while he's thinking "Now I can get what I want!". I think HE needs to read this thread, too.

3rd. Just one last thought...........Sometimes you need to give yourself permission to be selfish. (Take that for what it is worth)

Good luck

[Vio&Juni]

Sara, I know what I've told you before, but, after thinking about it more, I say - Do what your heart tells you.
I am sure, your sister is a great person and she will take good care of Jupiter or the other kitten if she decides to take him. Talk to her.
I know how complicated it would be, if we had to separate with my sister and brother. Who will get the cat???? I wouldn't want to give my Juni, but still she's not only mine

[catmandu]

That is a tough one , after all you did promise. But i know how much Cats can get attched to one another My sheba never did get over the loss of her dear Friend Mr.Whiskers. She mourned him the rest of her life, maybe you can find a shelter Cat already fixed that really needs a good home , maybe an older Cat that normally doesnt stand a chance!

[Cataholic]

Sara,
Take a few steps back, and think about things for a moment. The first concern ***should be**** from the kitties perspectives- all THREE of them. I think that is the way you approach it with your sister. No question Jupiter will have a great home, either with you or your sister. So, think what would make Jupi happiest...and that is probably with Tinker. THEN, let your sister know how you are thinking/feeling - for poop's sake- she is your SISTER- not some stranger. So, lay it on the line, honest, upfront, and from the kitties welfare. Let her know that there is a KITTEN that needs a loving home...and maybe she could see her way to adopt him/her....to make a better life for all three kitties.

As to your BF(or husband? I can't recall) 'wanting' the kitten...well, that is only confusing the situation. That is the second concern, once Jupi's home issue is worked out. THEN, the kitten's home can be resolved. Same thing with the kitten...either you or your sister would make a great cat mom...so, think of it from the kitten's perspective, first.

I agree with Jen, let your sister read this, and see where you are coming from. End result, this will all work out. Better two people stepping up to the plate to adopt a kitten...then, none, as is all too often the way.

[popcornbird]

I agree. I think it was selfish of your husband to say why don't you take Jupiter back. After all, your sister didn't ask for him. Eric told her to take him back. I think THAT'S the main problem, and the cause of it. Now your sister may think your family wants to give Jupiter back, when she wasn't the first to ask. Maybe she realized it wouldn't be right to take him from Tinky, but when Eric said that, perhaps she now thinks that Eric doesn't want to keep him. I don't mean to hurt you in anyway, but I really think what Eric did was wrong, JUST so he can get a new kitten. Really, that's sad.

I could NEVER in my life imagine seperating Popcorn from Muffin. I think that is cruelty. After an animal has been such bonded with another, its wrong to seperate them. You wouldn't like to be seperated with Eric, having no contact with him or not knowing where he is would you? Put yourself in Jupiter and Tinky's place. Imagine yourself sitting at home peacefully, enjoying your life, when all of a sudden Eric, or someone you love is taken away by someone else. You cannot contact him, and you have no clue where he is. How would you feel? This is something that would be VERY VERY hard for your kitties and painful for them at the same time. I still cannot understand why Eric said that. If it was a joke, I would understand, but serious? OMG Sara, PLEASE don't get offended by this post. I am only trying to tell you that its wrong to seperate them. If you seperate them, I don't know if either will ever forgive you. PLEASE PLEASE think this over. If I was in your place and I HAD to give Jupiter up, I would rather give both of them so at least they could be together. I know it would be hard, but you need to think in the best interest of the kitties. She is your sister. Its not like she left Jupi with some stranger kittysitter and now wanted him back. A sister is a sister is a sister. Sisters are one of the closest family members you can have. PLEASE talk to her AND Eric and tell them how very wrong and painful it would be for the kitties. I'm sorry you've been put in this situation. I seriously believe your husband needs some talking to. I hope you can get him to read this thread.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

She is on her way to pick Jupiter up.

I talked to her about what I think... and she said whatever I want / think is best... but I told her it was her decision....

I mean.... (I tried to put myself in my sister's shoes)... if I raised Tinky for the first six months of her life and I had to have someone else keep her untill I could have her in my house ... in this case my sister... and I finally had a house and could get my little girl back... I KNOW i would really really want her back.....

this is so hard...

BUT.... she did say that if Jupiter acts sad and misses Tinky and she said if Tinky looks around for Jupiter and misses him that she will bring him back and she would take the kitten.....

So yall please pray for me, Tinky and Jupiter....

And.... another thing... she said there is a stray cat around their house they are talking about taking in... so he will have a friend...

..................................

{(I think I am gonna end up in worse shape than the kitties )]

[Uabassoon]

I'm so sorry. I hope that things work out, I know it must be so hard for you. I can't even imagine what you are feeling right now, but I know you must hurt. I don't really know what else to say, other than I'm really sorry this is happening and I hope that everything will work out.

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

I just talked to Candace..... Brian will not give up the kitten.
.............. ....................

[Kirsten]

God, all this is so sad - for you, and for all three cats involved! I really don't know what to say at the moment... Poor you, poor Jupiter and Tinky, and poor kitten!

Kirsten