Tubby and Peanut have been together now for 13 years and I guess I'd say they coexist, like Logan says. They used to chase each other around the house occassionally, which I considered playing, but that has happened for awhile now. They have never snuggled and rarely get within a foot of each other, unless for some reason their food dishes have gone completely empty. Then when I refill they are kinda hungry so they will sit next to each other and eat, but then go on their own merry ways. They aren't hostile to each other, just kind of ignore each other.....unless, of course, Peanut is on my lap and Tubby happens to notice. Then he has to come over and be the big bully and she'll run away.

So unfortunately I don't have any advice. They may never be the snugglers like others here have, but hopefully they will learn to coexist and hopefully Emily will stop growling at poor little Tanner. But that will probably happen as Tanner gets older and stops jumping on her. And who knows, as he gets older she might just realize he's not such a little brat and get nicer to him.

I do believe Tubby would miss Peanut - or the other way around - if anything were to happen to either of them. So they know that each other are there, I guess they would just rather stay away from each other.