Lolly also had men issues when I got her. Who could blame her after being abused for 5 years by some disgruntled lunatic. Anyway, I was fortunate to have a sweet male neighbor and a sweet dad who helped Lolly understand that men are not a bad thing (well MOST men anyway, hehe). A little work, love, and patience can go a long way. She still doens't completely love strangers but she allows them to pet her and does absolutely fine