aly, though i feel for your turmoil...i think that you must accept the fact that you are lollys' new pet human....you love each other...actions speak louder than words....you have given her her teddy bear...she seems to have her own place to sleep in the house...you have added her photo to your signature....lets face it lolly has adopted you!!!!we know that you love each other dearly...find a way to make it work...in your new home is anybody really going to count your pets???? what if you had 3 fish???? the incident with the kitty will die down...cats are amazing at letting their fellow canines know who is boss...i know ...my pet feline swatted me after a few days and now i just avoid her...your pets are all beautiful and compliment each other..you did a wonderful thing taking lilly in and should feel good about this.....but i think that she is now yours....the deli dog