Originally posted by Edwina's Secretary
Cataholic....

As someone who was single until ~40 years of age and who lived alone and made ALL the decisions for 20 years I can tell you it isn't as simple as it looks....



This is reality. If I want a dog and he doesn't one of us is going to get what we want and one isn't.

Appeasement...maybe...negotiations...yeah. Sometimes doing things to make your partner happy (aka appease) is the right thing to do.

Remember the line from Man of La Mancha "...whether the pitcher hits the stone or the stone hits the pitcher...it's going to be bad for the pitcher..."

Well, I guess there is still hope for me, as I am 'only' 37..he he he..And, while I don't know the Man of La Mancha, I certainly get your point. BUT, (always a but, eh?) I think we are getting into a area of semantics. I totally know, appreciate, understand that relationships of any kind, duration, etc., take negotions or appeasement. I think what I am trying to express is the "I can't because my husband/wife won't (forbids) me". That isn't the same as saying, "well, this is one area where I might have to give/appease/let go". I truly (and perhaps, naively) believe when it comes to the point of "I win-you lose"...there is a serious issue. I think that it becomes something more like "I love you, and therefore, want what is best for you and us, and my decision is to go with your wants". I will stick by my earlier statment that being in the position of allowing someone to 'forbid' you is a slippery slope.