It took me a day to respond to this post. I voted yesterday....but needed to calm myself. I am a certified feminist.... Why? Well, let me explain....

I grew up with a dead beat dad. I watched my mom support my brother and I on her own. I also watched my grandmother support herself in a huge house after my grandfather passed away. My dad's father left his family, so I've also seen that grandmother support herself and her family. Can you guess how I felt about this post? ALLOW??? FORBID??? Those would NOT my in my vocabulary when describing what a man can do.

My marriage is based on respect. My hubby would no sooner control anything I did...and usually its me who controlls things, but I would never FORBID him from doing anything.

As far as adding an animal...that's a responsibility question...if you can handle one, go for it. If you disagree on it, maybe it should have been discussed BEFORE marriage. I may be wierd, but I was really into our pre-marital counseling, I didn't want anything to come up years later and be stuck unhappy.

Cataholic...right on!! I agree with everything you've said! And being single a bad thing??? Nope! I can't tell you how many times I've said "Why did I get married?" Its hard to be independant and be married.