I also cannot remember all the posts, but scruffing the cat really helps a lot. The more skin your partner can get ahold of the better. It only takes one hand to scruff so the other hand is available to hold front feet or whatever is necessary. Then person 2 can put pill at the back of the throat.
I think that part of the reason they hold a grudge when the pill is crushed up is because they can taste it. (whereas the whole pill won't be on the tongue very long)
good luck.