Sorry, I've never had shoulder-replacement surgery or anything like that, so I can't give you any informed advice there. Best wishes!

I did have back surgery in September 2014. I was in the hospital for a week, then a rehab place for three more weeks. Then I went home, but I still had to keep pretty limited in my activities and I couldn't drive, until three months after the surgery. The surgery was successful, and I haven't had any trouble with my back since.

Can you over-rule your husband on that mole trap? That sounds positively brutal. Is it even legal? Surely there are humane ways to remove the mole.

Maybe these folks would have some advice and suggestions? -
British Columbia SPCA, https://spca.bc.ca/