Random thoughts

[Catty1]

Check out a few pages of Al-Anon for support.

[mon]

Thanks, might refresh my memory for sure. My Grandma was in chairwoman in Alanon for years, she has passed so I can break her anonymity, and I attended meetings with her when I was a kid, I was in Alateen and attended a few meetings of Adult children of Alcoholics, you wanna meet some damaged peeps.... Adult Chidren of Acoholics...that'd be the place to find 'em. OMG! No offence to members, just a fact. I grew up in A.A. as my Mum was a member and always dragged me to meetings when she couldn't find a babysitter. I have a lot of family members and freinds in A.A. Narcotics Anonymous, Naranon, Gamblers Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous. The principles and 12 steps and traditions are the same in all of them, very helpful. Thanks again. Mum in law is in her 70's, don't imagine she'll ever change but I sure as hell can.❤️

[mon]

P.s. I really want to warn any Pet Talk peeps, their family and freinds, while there are some very good and sincere peeps at these self help, 12 step groups.... there are also vultures. There are peeps who feed off vulnerable people and try to take advantage of their vulnerability. There are people who only attend these meetings for that purpose, the only reason they are there is because they are bottom feeders, so don't give out your phone number or address to anyone, male or female. Only good, sane advice.❤️👍🏿💕

[mon]

Sharing experience, strength and hope, Al Anon. I always thought of Al Anon members as doormats. People who put up with drunkards and will...forever, willingly. I still do.

[Catty1]

Sharing experience, strength and hope, Al Anon. I always thought of Al Anon members as doormats. People who put up with drunkards and will...forever, willingly. I still do.

And detach with love.

And not stopping the drinker from experiencing the consequence of their actions.

[mon]

That's one way to look at it. I respect that. I wouldn't take responsibility for another's actions ever anyway, I pay the consequences for my own actions and fully expect others to do the same. Oh it's been fun for sure 😉🙉 I'm only capable of detaching with love, a lot of physical distance and a measure of disgust. I'm not one to set the bar so low, having a relationship with someone who only thinks of themselves. I expect more out of life, myself and choosing to be around people who are incapable of loving themselves, let alone me... why do that? No thanks. The long suffering martyrdom, telling yourself you'll get good Karma or Browny points in heaven or some other such horseshit sounds retarded to me. To each his own. Dr. Uncle Phil always says, " when someone tells you who they are, believe them". I for one agree. I Skyped Mum, asked her if maybe one week would be better instead of two. Can't blame a woman for trying right? Throw it against the wall....see if it sticks 👍🏿 So far, radio silence....🤞🏾

[Catty1]

There's no brownie points for sure.

I heard a saying: "Trying to get love from an addict is like going to the hardware store for bread." Ain't gonna happen.

It is sad to see someone so alone, extreme and miserable.