[Dear You. . .]

**Louie and me** · 08-25-2014, 01:00 PM

Thanks.
Not "normal" but because of his mental issues I have tolerated it all these years and now I feel as though I am abandoning him.

**mon** · 08-25-2014, 03:05 PM

My heart goes out to you completely. This process of separating is obviously gut wrenching for you. After all these years, with no end in sight, it is no wonder others think it is time for you to move on and try to heal. I'm sure they want the best for you and to build a healthy, even happy life that you so richly deserve. You know that it is right, easier said than done though, right. Anyone one in your shoes would be torn, this can in no way be easy on any level. Please reach out at tis time and make use of ALL the support you might need. This is the time you will need it the most honey. I'll bet your DH is making this as difficult as possible for you, am I right. Anytime you need an ear, I am here, been there, HATED it! It is so worth it honey, please believe me, not easy but it will be like a new wonderful life eventually. It can be, believe it or not. You know how to get hold of me, hang in there woman!

**cassiesmom** · 09-04-2014, 01:44 AM

Dear B.,

If this were a test, you wouldn't pass: "If someone seriously wants to be part of your life, they will seriously make an effort to be in it. No reasons. No excuses."

Just saying...

**Karen** · 09-04-2014, 02:50 AM

Originally Posted by Louie and me

Thanks.
Not "normal" but because of his mental issues I have tolerated it all these years and now I feel as though I am abandoning him.

Just remember that we all love you, and know you deserve the best in life. You did not cause his mental illness, and you are not abandoning him, but rather saving yourself. We love you!

**Louie and me** · 09-04-2014, 07:17 AM

Thanks Karen, it helps to know people care and support me. Right now things are in a holding pattern while I figure out next steps. In the meantime there's a whole lot of attention seeking manipulation going on. Angina, low blood sugar, waiting for a hospital bed (not true). I don't think it ever entered his head I would go through with it.

**Alysser** · 09-04-2014, 10:12 AM

Louie and me, I am sorry for the rough patch you're going through. You can't please everyone and sometimes you need to just do something for yourself.

**Alysser** · 09-04-2014, 10:14 AM

Oh, and while I am here...

Dear ArcGIS,
Because of you this is going to be a horrifically long semester. Just when I think I am getting the hang of something, something else happens. I would appreciate it if you could stop making me feel stupid. GIS as a whole is a pretty interesting subject, but I don't like Arc very much yet. Maybe you will someday be improved? haha I doubt it.

Sincerely,
Alyssa

**Catty1** · 09-04-2014, 02:55 PM

Louie - when I went through a tough breakup quite a few years back, I already had a list in my head of all the tricks he would try, all emotional ones.

I had an answer for each of them.

Maybe the next time you get an angina complaint, call 911 and have him billed for the ambulance.

Seriously, just take care of yourself and lean on your support.

And Alysser - I have NO idea what arcGIS is, but either read ahead on it or just take it one day at a time. I know you'll ace it anyway!

**Louie and me** · 09-05-2014, 12:11 PM

Cant begin to tell you how much your support has meant to me. Thank you all who replied.
Catty - I'm so used to the angina drama now I just ignore it. Having said that, he does have a very serious heart condition but, since he still works 12-14 hour days not to mention his time spent with his current "other", I figure he's managing just fine.