A revelation: Ladies only, please! ARGH! Doctor's are such A$$e$

[mrspunkysmom]

You might not remember this post nor understand why I need to vent again. It's because I left out a crucial event during that appt, and it has been gnawing on me for the last several weeks. I've been crying a lot, even if I don't look like I'm crying. And the appt has been playing over in my mind for the last two weeks. Every time I ask myself what is wrong, that appt shows up. And I've been a grumpy crotchety touchy b1tch that last ten weeks or so, getting worse each week. And I've been so depressed and tired.

I left stuff out, and I don't know why. Perhaps I thought I had dealt with it?

At the beginning of the appt asked if I wanted a "complete" exam, which I've not had since the surgery. I declined. I usually don't let my GPs get that familiar with me. At least twice during the horrible physical, he or his nurse asked if I wanted the complete exam. I said no.

I did agree to a breast exam. Well, I'm a large girl, but he treated me so disrespectfully. While talking to me, he "examined me" but it really looked like he was a kid poking jello, just to watch it jiggle. Yes, he poked my breasts several times and watched them jiggle. He wouldn't have found a tumor that way. I wish I was the type of girl that could b1tch slap him. He so deserves it. The nurse was in there but was not really looking.

Before he began the exam, his nurse had me strip and put on the gown. However the physical part began an hour later. During the hour I am sitting almost-butt naked with only my underwear and a gown, while he questions me and insults me, my family, etc. Yes, I'm in there an hour with only a gown on while he is insulting me and no nurse.

I came in just to apologize for any cranky behavior lately, but while reading my original vent, I discover I left part of it out. I'm wondering why. Perhaps I didn't want the fellows to feel embarrassed.

So, I'm refusing to pay the bill, and I am writing a letter to the hospital system that employs him.

Thanks for listening.

And he has done this before. He is far too good at hos he treated me. He's had practice.

[Karen]

I am glad you are writing that letter, keep a copy for yourself, but send it registered mail so someone has to acknowledge they receive it. Future potential patients will thank you.

[mrspunkysmom]

I am glad you are writing that letter, keep a copy for yourself, but send it registered mail so someone has to acknowledge they receive it. Future potential patients will thank you.

Thanks for that idea! I will.

[Bonny]

You have to be your advocate when it comes to doctors & medicine. Doctors are suppose to LISTEN. It sounds like this doctor lacks bedside manners. He needs a bed pan over the head (and a full one at that).

My husband has a weight issue, he has had it since he was born. His metabolism is slow & he is a good doer. Every time he goes to the doctor it is you have to exercise & lose weight. He is very active & farms, but that is not considered exercise chasing cattle, shoveling feed, cutting wood, etc. So the doctor sent him for a quick fix exercise therapy at the hospital, he passed the stress test after that. Then there is the borderline diabetic thing. Next he is sent to a dietician. I went along & we already are eating correctly. He did end up dropping the pop thought which is a good thing. He has lost 15 lbs., but has to eat like a mouse & does feel better health wise so it has been worth it so far.

[mrspunkysmom]

You have to be your advocate when it comes to doctors & medicine. Doctors are suppose to LISTEN. It sounds like this doctor lacks bedside manners. He needs a bed pan over the head (and a full one at that).

He is a pervert and a user, but that's another story.

I do need to exercise more, and the diet needs some tweaking (I'm gluten free so I eat rather healthy anyway), but between the meds and the autoimmune disorder, my metabolism is just horrible.

The depression over his maltreatment of me as a person has been the major obstacle.

Thanks for sharing.

[Karen]

Thanks for that idea! I will.

You're welcome. From everything you said, I doubt yours is the first complaint they will get, but it may be the one that leads them to take action!

[moosmom]

Maybe I'm a little slow, but there WILL NOT be a next time! "Just 'saying"

[mrspunkysmom]

Maybe I'm a little slow, but there WILL NOT be a next time! "Just 'saying"

Like I so agree. I knew half-way through, before the physical exam began, that I would not be returning. But I had invested two work days into the doctor just to get refills on Thyroid medicine, and I wasn't giving up.

You're welcome. From everything you said, I doubt yours is the first complaint they will get, but it may be the one that leads them to take action!

Let's hope so.



I found this article n doctor abuse that confirms what I though about the incident. It's abuse even if sex or rape didn't occur.

http://forwomenseyesonly.com/2013/04...ents-barriers/

and another forum.

http://curezone.org/forums/am.asp?i=890422

This one is an editorial on bad doctoring. It contains some foul language.

http://forwomenseyesonly.com/2013/08...or-genitals-2/

This search is therapeutic for me.

[smokey the elder]

I'm so sorry this happened. It's doctors like that which make many women reluctant to have their "female" exams. The fit for two types of medical practitioners is critical IMO: one's OB/GYN and one's dentist. Good luck!