Saying goodbye to Malachi :-(

[Karen]

Thanks all for the kind words. It's been a hard week adjusting to our now quieter home. Phinehas has been glued to me nonstop and has been sleeping under the covers with me at night. I know it's going to take some time to adjust, but wanted to see if there was any advice in terms of helping a grieving cat and also when the right time would be to possibly add another companion cat. I know I'm not ready just yet, but would like Phinehas to have a kitty companion to cuddle with sometime in the future.

It is hard, but when the time is right, your heart will know, I promise. There is no set time when one should get a new kitty - everything is variable including your heart, Phin's needs and the rest. We'll be thinking of you!

[krazyaboutkatz]

Karen, I'm so sorry for your loss and sorry that I haven't replied to this thread sooner. Malachi sure was a very unique cat. I remember playing fetch with him. RIP sweet boy. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

As Karen already said, you'll know when the time is right to let another cat into to life. I wish you good luck in finding a companion for Phinehas.

[wolflady]

Thanks Tracey. Too bad I'm not still in CA so we could make another trip up to visit Linda! It was totally fun going up there to see her kitties!

[wolflady]

Hello everyone! Gosh, just reading through this thread again brought me to tears. I wish we could have done more for Malachi and I still think back on the course of events and wonder why I didn't notice things were off sooner.

It's been several months now, and I think the time is right to try adding another oriental to the family. I remember before I brought Phinehas home, I came on here with anxieties of bringing home a kitty and I'm feeling the same way now. Phinehas has been very clingy ever since Malachi left. I found a women (who is also a vet!) who breeds and shows orientals and has a female cat that she has retired and wants to place in a home. This cat is 4 years old and has a dominant personality which I was a little concerned about because Phinehas also has a dominant personality. I gave a full description of my cat and our home/lifestyle to this woman because I want to make sure we're making the right decision for her and for us. She has reassured me that her kitty seems indifferent to males when it comes to dominance, so I hope these two get along. Phinehas is a cuddler, so I was hoping to get another cuddler. Oddly enough, I've never had a female cat - so not entirely sure what to expect! We'll be meeting her this Sunday in Dayton at a cat show, so fingers crossed things go well with the addition and transition. I'll open another thread once we bring her home.

[Karen]

Awww, do keep us posted!

[ChrisH]

Good luck, hope all goes well.