Originally posted by moosmom
She's miserable in her own life because her husband (who I adore) is in the early stages of Alzheimers at the age of 68. Her way of dealing with it is to go off and do her own thing leaving him at home to watch tv and eat toast. It disgusts me

your 'pity party' moved me to write....
in a nutshell..I lost my dad to diabetes and AD a bit more than a year ago, I lost my G-friend 5 months later to cancer..I took my
GF's cat because her family were a bunch of A-holes and they 'couldn't take' him. Taking eddie has made my life more
bearable because he has softened the loss of two of the people I
admired most. As for you, You should be commended for your
time and the effort you have put into keeping your BIL active and
in to life. There will be days ahead where you'll look back at the time you spent with him and it will put a smile on your face.


At the end of the Wizard of Oz, where Dorothy and the others were getting their 'wishes' filled-the wizard gave the tin man a
heart and said something like "it's not how you love with your heart-it's how much you are loved in return" (i paraphrased there but you get the idea....). The love your pets and BIL show you will get you through the tough times.

p.s. after my dad's death I'd call my mom and ask her what she was doing- She'd answer 'having a pity party!' I told her that she should make sure that she put away the hats and the rest of the
cake when she was done-I said that it's o.k. to have one, but not
to get into the habit-it's no fun having a party alone!

keep your chin up!