I need opinions for my son.

[Karen]

I'd go with sapphire in white gold. My wedding ring is a family heirloom from Paul's grandmother, but is platinum with sapphires on the sides, and I love it. It also does not have prongs that stick out and catch on things, which is great!

White gold won't tarnish, or wear down as quickly as sterling might, and it will look like the silver she prefers over yellow gold.

It will be her ring, special to her, who cares if "fashion" dictates a diamond solitaire?

[Karen]

And. I had meant to add - whatever ring he decides on (with your help, of course) will be special to her, and something different will give her a conversation starter with friends. When one sees yet another diamond solitaire, one tends to just say 'ooh, how pretty" and move on to other plans, but something different would be a reflection of her unique personality, and his respect for it!

[pomtzu]

What is her birthstone?

I have a lab created emerald cut sapphire surrounded by small lab created diamonds in a sterling setting. I've had it for years, and tho I don't wear it everyday, it looks like new. Everyone thinks it's real! Yeah - if it was, I'd be rich!

[Taz_Zoee]

I personally like simple (like Rachel's she just got!). My mom's first ring is very gaudy (IMO) and her second one has a single diamond, but the setting is too high. I'd constantly be scratching myself and catching it on things. My ideal ring would be a band with maybe stones set IN it.

If she has the same taste as you then I'm thinking you can't go wrong! I'm sure she will love whatever you and he choose.
I know I'd like ANY kind of ring from my boyfriend (after 10 years!!).

[Karen]

Another option would be to ask jewelers about using the stones etc., from the grandmother's ring and resetting it, into a band that would fit her.

[pomtzu]

I'm not trying to be a know-it-all, but any jeweler worth his salt, could revise this ring to fit. My dad was in watch and jewelry repair, and he could take the whole top part of the ring where the stones are, and make an entirely new shank to a larger size, and not just cut the bottom of the shank and stretch it out and add a piece to make it larger. Basically what is being done, is cutting the top off and soldering it to a larger shank. Perhaps this is an art that the young-uns have never learned?????

[Karen]

I'm not trying to be a know-it-all, but any jeweler worth his salt, could revise this ring to fit. My dad was in watch and jewelry repair, and he could take the whole top part of the ring where the stones are, and make an entirely new shank to a larger size, and not just cut the bottom of the shank and stretch it out and add a piece to make it larger. Basically what is being done, is cutting the top off and soldering it to a larger shank. Perhaps this is an art that the young-uns have never learned?????

Most stores now send things off, and will not enlarge over 2 sizes at a time. Catnapper, I'd go to the longest-established jeweler in town, and ask for the owner - someone with grey hair might better understand!