I Feel Like Such A Failure Update 9-15-13

[snakemama]

Knowing your limits does not make you a failure. I don't know if I know anyone who loves their kitties as much as you do, and I know you are putting them first.

[Kirsten]

I'm so sorry, Tracey, and please don't feel like a failure! You're a person who loves cats unconditionally, and you've adopted them them with best intentions. To realize there are now too many to care for and to return them is a very hard decision, but also an act of love. You're very brave! (((HUGS)))

[smokey the elder]

IMO this is an incredibly responsible thing to do. We hear so many stories about people getting way over their limit, and not getting help until it's too late. You did not wait until it was too late, but are getting help now. I hope you have visitation rights, at least! Good luck.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Thanks again everyone. I'm just so thankful that the rescue group where I adopted them from has the policy that if something happens and you can't care for them or they just don't work out etc. that they want them returned back to their rescue group. Yes, it was a hard phone call to make because I've become friends with their foster mom and I didn't want her to think of me as a person who adopts cats and then returns them. I know that it can be a 20 year commitment. Things will be much better and easier for me so I do have to keep that in mind. I won't have visitation rights and I don't think that would be a good idea any way because it would just make me and the cats too upset. I will ask their foster mom to please let me know when and if each cat is adopted.

I just received a phone call from my vet and Rory's blood work is fine so at least his foster mom won't have to worry about anything else with him. I also told her what I plan to do and she agreed that I was doing the right thing. She said that she has 5 cats herself and some days she feels like this is even too many. She also wished that more rescue groups would except their cats back when things don't work out.

[ChrisH]

{{hugs}} & love.

[Taz_Zoee]

You would be a failure if you kept these cats and were not able to give them the proper care they need.
The fact that you know this and are doing the best for the cats shows you are a good person.
It is a difficult decision, but as you know it is the right one.
It's great that the foster mom can take them back.
And I'm glad Rory will be fine too.

Will the foster mom let you visit?? Until they are adopted anyway.

[cassiesmom]

You would be a failure if you kept these cats and were not able to give them the proper care they need.
The fact that you know this and are doing the best for the cats shows you are a good person.
It is a difficult decision, but as you know it is the right one.
It's great that the foster mom can take them back.
And I'm glad Rory will be fine too.

Will the foster mom let you visit?? Until they are adopted anyway.

I was thinking the same thing this morning. You are doing the best for the cats. Hugs and lovies to ALL your kitties!

[Freckles]

I won't have visitation rights and I don't think that would be a good idea any way because it would just make me and the cats too upset.

No visitations.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

You are doing the right thing. As much as we want too, we can't help every cat. At least you know they went to a place that will take good care of them. My heart breaks for you. You are living my worse nightmare: having to give some of my babies up. Prayers on the way.

[Casper]

I can't imagine having to make that decision, but I admire the fact that you put your cats ahead of yourself. Thats such a perfect example of how much you really do love them. Sending good vibes for happy endings all around.
((((HUGS))))

[Taz_Zoee]

No visitations.

Oops, I guess I should read the posts completely. Thanks.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Thanks again everyone. I sure hope that they'll be as happy when they're back with their foster mom as they seem to be with me. I also hope that she'll be able to keep them all together in a room because they all get along well together and it'll be an easier transition if they all have each other.